"Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you ." (Ja 4:7) The word "submit" used here is described by Webster's dictionary thus : " to yield to governance or authority " . Why do so many people have such a hard time submitting to the will of God ? Oftentimes, this also means that they will be required to "submit" to some teacher, guide or prophet as is prescribed by Scripture; " Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you ." (He 13:17)
In order to do this, submit to another, it requires faith; firstly, faith in God, that He is looking out for you, and that whatever happens we are trusting that He will turn it out for what is best. So far this all sounds pretty simple, so why is it so difficult for so many ? ..... Fear ! They are afraid of being hurt emotionally. It leaves them vulnerable, and it is this vulnerability that is so frightening to many. The Bible says that, " ...fear hath torment ..." (1John 4:18) and so this fear of vulnerability is tormenting people and standing in the way of their relationship with God.
The opposite of fear is faith. The Bible says, " In your patience possess ye your souls ." (Lk 21:19) And you can't have patience without faith ! So, we don't have faith or allow faith to take it's hold out of fear. We don't want to be vulnerable because we fear being hurt. It's really just a pride trip. If we get hurt then it shows that we are vulnerable and most people interpret vulnerability with weakness and to appear weak would be an afront to their pride, their ego would be wounded, they would no longer be viewed as some sort of super-human capable of withstanding anything and always coming out on top.
But what did the apostle Paul conclude ? This was a man that had suffered many things and had been humiliated on more than one occasion by capture, torture, prison, shipwreak ect... What did he have to say about it ? " Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong ." (2Cor 12:10) Why is that ? Because then you are drawing strength from the Lord and not your self.
When the Bible says," For he knoweth our frame; he remembereth that we are dust. ." (Ps 103:14) it is saying that God ackowledges our weakness and accepts it as part of our humanity, and if God can accept our vulnerability and weaknesses then it is only our pride that stops us from truly submitting to Him.
It is not a sin to be vulnerable. We are all vulnerable to the need for love, and this sometimes is scarry, as it is uncharterred territory that is not all pre-mapped and pre-decided, although if we can just set aside our pride and most of all trust in God's plan, then the Bible says, " Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.Or what man is there of you, whom if his son ask bread, will he give him a stone?Or if he ask a fish, will he give him a serpent ? If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him? " (Mt 7:7-11)
" Fear not, little flock; for it is your Father's good pleasure to give you the kingdom ." (Lk 12:32) God wants you to be happy, and has set out guidlines and rules in His Word that are designed for that purpose. Don't let pride and the fear of hurt deprive you of the love and satisfaction that God has in store for you.