So much in today's world is geared toward the outward appearance that it is sometimes difficult to see what the true and honest intentions really are, so we pass off the "I didn't mean it" as truth and think no more of it. This does not let the person off the hook in God's eyes however. "...for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart."(1Sam 16:7) The important thing to remember here is not so much the doing of the deed, as is the intention of doing the deed. (a determination to act in a certain way - Webster)
God judges as per the intention and not necessarily always by the physical accomplishment of the act. Sometimes someone will set out to do something, be it good or bad, but for some reason is not able to complete the act. The intention, however, was to complete it, and that is what counts in God's eyes. Whether or not you got to finish what you started is, in many cases, irrelevant ! Many times a person, out of love and compassion will intend to perform some act of kindness but for reasons unforseen, they are not able to conclude their intended charitable act. This intention of the heart is not lost in the eyes of God, as the Lord sees the heart, in the spirit. The accomplishment of an intended act of kindness is, for the most part a confirmation of faith, of an act already predetermined in the heart and mind of it's author. This was brought out in the Epistle of James 2:16-22 where the apostle was trying to convey that it was necessary to put faith into physical actions as a manifestation of that faith. The faith was born first, in the heart, mind and spirit and is then transfered into physical actions that we can see with our eyes. The birth of that act, in the heart, is what God sees; and whether there is resistance to Him or not begins in the heart and spirit of the individual.
Jesus said, "But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart." (Mt 5:28 )and by this He accomplished two things: first it was telling us that it was impossible for any man to stand in front of the law guiltless as there is not a man on the face of the earth that is not guilty of seeing a beautiful woman and not desiring her, and secondly, and perhaps more importantly, He was establishing that it is the intention of the heart without necessarily the physical fulfillment of the act that was seen in God's eyes. So, whatever you intend in your heart, is what you will be accountable to God for. Ever hear someone say, " I wish he were dead" ? or, " I could just kill him/her" ? Oh, they didn't really mean it ? Too late, the intention was already there, and therefore, in the eyes of God, they are guilty of murder ! and responsible to the Mosaic law for retribution and punishment.
The good news is that Jesus, Who gave Himself as a living sacrifice, has already paid the blood price for sin and when we come to Him in honesty and humility and ask Him for His forgiveness the Bible says,
" If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."(1Jn 1:9) So, watch what you intend for your neighbour, God will hold you to it.
" Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver."(2Cor 9:7)
" Neither is there any creature that is not manifest in his sight: but all things are naked and opened unto the eyes of him with whom we have to do."(He 4:13)
" ...out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.(Mt 12:34)